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The dating scene has changed drastically over the last thirty years. In the seventies, businesses were established to cure the dating dilemma. They were good back then, but things change, people change, and our society is not what it was 30 years ago. As the song goes: "The times they are a changing" Today, many single men and women find themselves asking the question: Where do you go to meet upscale singles? The answer is 'My South Florida Dating'!
South Florida Dating concept was born in the early 1990's. While working as leaders in the top dating services at the time, the South Florida Dating management team began taking note of what worked and what did not work for America's singles. For over ten years, online dating has been an answer for some but many are now dissatisfied with the insincerity and risk involved.
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DATING
The Singles Scene Column
Hook Up or Hold Out? By Kelly Leary, M.S., V.P. and Director of Precision Dating
If you are reading this column, most likely you are single and ready to date. So the question of the month is: When is it o.k. to have sex? Some say on the third date…some say after three months. Being in the relationship business, I am asked this question quite frequently and there are many schools of thought. If you are of strict faith—then you should look to your religion for guidance.
My first answer to the “HOLD OUT or HOOK UP?” topic is the same every time I’m asked: Once the two of you have established an exclusive monogamous relationship. I.E. Wait until you are 100% committed to each other and not interested in seeing anyone else. Being a Catholic, I’d like to say that it’s best to wait until marriage, but that unfortunately is not realistic anymore. People are more apt to want to explore each other before such a commitment. So, in light of modern times, I feel its o.k. to have sex when you and your “significant other” are on the same page of your relationship and very “into each other” in an exclusive monogamous relationship. Expectations of where the relationship stands should be on equal ground and now you are taking it to the next level. You shouldn’t have sex just to “keep” someone or to “get” someone. (Safe Sex is a Must).
True love rarely starts with sex. When you are in the early stages of a relationship, it’s always a good idea to keep your partner slightly vigilant. Men and women all need as much sensation of longing for a certain desire as they do the actual desire. That is what makes it all so exciting. Expectation can be a good thing. The highs and lows of the search and the quest that keeps things stimulating…this game of love is very interesting.
It doesn’t matter exactly how you determine the status of your relationship. Hopefully, it just flows naturally and you both “know” where you stand. If you are members of the Precision Dating club, then you may put yourselves on a “freeze” (a fun way to discuss your relationship status). If you find yourself constantly guessing or insecure about your relationship status, then I would move on. Life is too short and will pass you by if you let it. The right one is waiting for you—so don’t waste your time with the wrong one!!! We know when we are loved and we know when we are not. If your “exclusive” relationship is progressing and you are attracted to each other physically, mentally, emotionally, and your goals and ideas for the future are in line, then in my opinion it is o.k. to want to explore your physical compatibility.
Time is on the table—another good reason to HOLD OUT. Why waste a year or two or more with someone who you are NOT sexually compatible with—or—someone who you are ONLY sexually compatible with? If you are with someone who you are very sexually attracted to—but out of the bedroom they rank below your standard—do you think you should stay? NO. Before you jump into bed with someone—I recommend that you determine your compatibility first. Is there a true connection that binds you outside of the bedroom? If not, I suggest you go no further. If you are with the “ideal” mate…but you are just not at all sexually attracted to them—should you stay? NO. So the only solution is to determine this before you become REALLY connected in the physical sense. Sex clouds the head. Wouldn’t you agree? If you want to save yourself time and headaches—find out what’s up before you jump into bed. All the more reason to find the right one! Don’t settle! There are plenty of fish in the sea!! Grandma wasn’t joking!!
Despite the topic of hook up or hold out, it is important to note that men do want sex…and more sex. It is unanimous though—of the men I spoke with in our club—all agree that sex is best with one special person. One night stands are “empty”. Not to mention, no one values a quick and EASY win, right? (Well, maybe the Lotto?) In the Love Game, good things usually do not come from an EASY score. Men think that a woman who agrees to go to bed on the first date is doing that with every other guy in town. Not a good visual—and rarely—the path to lasting love.
A Private Relationship Club typically will attract sincere daters as opposed to any public venue--(common sense). Our members are looking for a cut above the rest because they basically have it all and are looking for one special person to share it with. A man that only wants a “hook up” is therefore not “dateworthy” according to our standards. He is just not in the relationship mode. He would fare better in bars or online perhaps? Ladies, if the primary goal of flirting with you is only to get you in bed…then its just a HOOK UP. So hold out…and move on. If he is worth it, he’ll jump thru hoops to win your love, and he’ll enjoy the pursuit. Men are hunters by nature and like the achievement of winning you over with his prowess and keen eye for success in love and life. You will be the prize of his life.
I screen all of my clients face to face to make sure they are in a good state of mind and READY for a meaningful relationship. By joining an elite club, you will meet men and women who are not dating everyone in town, and definitely not sleeping with everyone in town (Thank Goodness). Our members know who they are and know what they want. A relationship takes TWO—and you deserve someone as fantastic as you are!! Why Wait? Just Date! Good luck on your search for the ONE! Kelly Leary has over 19 years in the dating industry and a Masters Degree in Psychology. She is the Director and Vice President of Precision Dating—the most exclusive relationship club in Florida. Precision Dating has been featured on the ABC News and in the Palm Beach Post. This is not online dating. All members are prescreened first over the phone, then in person in their upscale office. P/D services the Treasure Coast, the Palm Beaches, and Tampa Area. This Upscale Dating Club makes singles “UN-single” all month long through their exclusive member services, matchmaking, date coaching, and image consulting. In addition, P/D holds monthly Speed Dating Parties. The next A-List Singles Event is on Thursday, April 22nd. All guests from 26 to 79 must RSVP in advance because seating is very limited…walk-ins are not welcome. For more information about P/D, please call 561-577-DATE (3283) in the Palm Beaches or 772-634-DATE (3283) in the Treasure Coast or 813-435-DATE (3283) in Tampa Area. Or visit their informative website at www.myprecisiondating.com.
Hook Up or Hold Out? By Kelly Leary, M.S., V.P. and Director of Precision Dating
If you are reading this column, most likely you are single and ready to date. So the question of the month is: When is it o.k. to have sex? Some say on the third date…some say after three months. Being in the relationship business, I am asked this question quite frequently and there are many schools of thought. If you are of strict faith—then you should look to your religion for guidance.
My first answer to the “HOLD OUT or HOOK UP?” topic is the same every time I’m asked: Once the two of you have established an exclusive monogamous relationship. I.E. Wait until you are 100% committed to each other and not interested in seeing anyone else. Being a Catholic, I’d like to say that it’s best to wait until marriage, but that unfortunately is not realistic anymore. People are more apt to want to explore each other before such a commitment. So, in light of modern times, I feel its o.k. to have sex when you and your “significant other” are on the same page of your relationship and very “into each other” in an exclusive monogamous relationship. Expectations of where the relationship stands should be on equal ground and now you are taking it to the next level. You shouldn’t have sex just to “keep” someone or to “get” someone. (Safe Sex is a Must).
True love rarely starts with sex. When you are in the early stages of a relationship, it’s always a good idea to keep your partner slightly vigilant. Men and women all need as much sensation of longing for a certain desire as they do the actual desire. That is what makes it all so exciting. Expectation can be a good thing. The highs and lows of the search and the quest that keeps things stimulating…this game of love is very interesting.
It doesn’t matter exactly how you determine the status of your relationship. Hopefully, it just flows naturally and you both “know” where you stand. If you are members of the Precision Dating club, then you may put yourselves on a “freeze” (a fun way to discuss your relationship status). If you find yourself constantly guessing or insecure about your relationship status, then I would move on. Life is too short and will pass you by if you let it. The right one is waiting for you—so don’t waste your time with the wrong one!!! We know when we are loved and we know when we are not. If your “exclusive” relationship is progressing and you are attracted to each other physically, mentally, emotionally, and your goals and ideas for the future are in line, then in my opinion it is o.k. to want to explore your physical compatibility.
Time is on the table—another good reason to HOLD OUT. Why waste a year or two or more with someone who you are NOT sexually compatible with—or—someone who you are ONLY sexually compatible with? If you are with someone who you are very sexually attracted to—but out of the bedroom they rank below your standard—do you think you should stay? NO. Before you jump into bed with someone—I recommend that you determine your compatibility first. Is there a true connection that binds you outside of the bedroom? If not, I suggest you go no further. If you are with the “ideal” mate…but you are just not at all sexually attracted to them—should you stay? NO. So the only solution is to determine this before you become REALLY connected in the physical sense. Sex clouds the head. Wouldn’t you agree? If you want to save yourself time and headaches—find out what’s up before you jump into bed. All the more reason to find the right one! Don’t settle! There are plenty of fish in the sea!! Grandma wasn’t joking!!
Despite the topic of hook up or hold out, it is important to note that men do want sex…and more sex. It is unanimous though—of the men I spoke with in our club—all agree that sex is best with one special person. One night stands are “empty”. Not to mention, no one values a quick and EASY win, right? (Well, maybe the Lotto?) In the Love Game, good things usually do not come from an EASY score. Men think that a woman who agrees to go to bed on the first date is doing that with every other guy in town. Not a good visual—and rarely—the path to lasting love.
A Private Relationship Club typically will attract sincere daters as opposed to any public venue--(common sense). Our members are looking for a cut above the rest because they basically have it all and are looking for one special person to share it with. A man that only wants a “hook up” is therefore not “dateworthy” according to our standards. He is just not in the relationship mode. He would fare better in bars or online perhaps? Ladies, if the primary goal of flirting with you is only to get you in bed…then its just a HOOK UP. So hold out…and move on. If he is worth it, he’ll jump thru hoops to win your love, and he’ll enjoy the pursuit. Men are hunters by nature and like the achievement of winning you over with his prowess and keen eye for success in love and life. You will be the prize of his life.
I screen all of my clients face to face to make sure they are in a good state of mind and READY for a meaningful relationship. By joining an elite club, you will meet men and women who are not dating everyone in town, and definitely not sleeping with everyone in town (Thank Goodness). Our members know who they are and know what they want. A relationship takes TWO—and you deserve someone as fantastic as you are!! Why Wait? Just Date! Good luck on your search for the ONE! Kelly Leary has over 19 years in the dating industry and a Masters Degree in Psychology. She is the Director and Vice President of Precision Dating—the most exclusive relationship club in Florida. Precision Dating has been featured on the ABC News and in the Palm Beach Post. This is not online dating. All members are prescreened first over the phone, then in person in their upscale office. P/D services the Treasure Coast, the Palm Beaches, and Tampa Area. This Upscale Dating Club makes singles “UN-single” all month long through their exclusive member services, matchmaking, date coaching, and image consulting. In addition, P/D holds monthly Speed Dating Parties. The next A-List Singles Event is on Thursday, April 22nd. All guests from 26 to 79 must RSVP in advance because seating is very limited…walk-ins are not welcome. For more information about P/D, please call 561-577-DATE (3283) in the Palm Beaches or 772-634-DATE (3283) in the Treasure Coast or 813-435-DATE (3283) in Tampa Area. Or visit their informative website at www.myprecisiondating.com.
DATING TIPS
1. Dress to Impress -The most common complaint I get is from a woman about how the man was dressed. Remember, a date is not "work" so leave the work boots home, put on a sharp shirt and pants. Get a haircut, be clean shaven. Jeans are fine, as long as they are not "work" jeans. Women should dress nice and fashionable, not "business-like"...attraction is a component of a successful date. We all have some of this...and it should be an ingredient in any date. This is your first date and you should always put your best look forward. Wow them with your sense of style and commitment to be and look your very best for them. Take the time to dress and primp before the date. Ladies...don't forget your lipstick!
2. Be on time and don't reschedule - it sends a bad message. You are building a possible relationship (if that is what you are seeking). So, you should start with good scores from the get go. Unreliability has never been a hit in relationships. I'm sure we all have some stories about that. Unreliability from the get go can often lead to big issues later on.
3. Avoid ALL talk about exes - including ex boyfriends, ex husbands, ex girlfriends, etc... If you are talking badly about someone you chose to love at one point in your life, really, you are talking bad about yourself and will eventually talk bad about the person you are on a date with. This is a "Lose-Lose" situation any way you slice it, so don't even go there. You would think we've all got this rule down by now, but I hear again and again - that people still do not get it. Never break this rule!! If your date asks you about your ex, politely respond with, "I would rather talk about you."
4. Don't complain (about anything). Again, we know this, but people still fail to comply. This is another no-brainer... it's your first impression and first time with this date, so don't complain about the restaurant, the service, or the food. Make light of it. If you really are getting bad service - make the most of it and say, "Well, we are still having fun despite the service here." Life is what you make it...so if you get a lemon, make some lemonade. People that do this well are impressive to others. This is an admirable trait and an easy one to develop.
5. If you like your date, show your interest. We don't read minds so signals of interest and approval are meaningful. We all want to be loved and adored. So if you find yourself admiring your date for his shoes, his confident demeanor, his sense of humor...let him know!! This will tell him you are confident enough to say and tell the truth and may very well get you to that second date - if that is what you want. (Be careful what you wish for... because if you follow this advice you will end up on a second date for sure!)
6. Honor the 50/50 rule: and NO, I'm not talking about the tab! Sorry guys, but I firmly believe that a first date (at the very least) is the guy's responsibility. I am talking about the conversation. Try to make sure that you are talking roughly half of the time and so is your date. A big complaint that I get is that "He/She monopolized the conversation... I couldn't get a word in." Hence, the reason for this rule. Keep it in mind.
7. Don't tell your life story on a first date - EVER. Save it for the second, third, fourth, fifth dates... there is something sexy in a mystery. It is fun to explore and get to know someone over time. That is what builds a relationship. Always leave him (or her) wanting more... of YOU!
8. Don't go into any medical problems you may have on a first date - unless you have a med alert situation - then I suppose your date may need to know. Some daters, out of nervousness, may go overboard giving too much information (T.M.I.)... don't be guilty of this. It's a big turn off. This is also a no-brainer, but you would be surprised how many people make this mistake.
9. Smile, be happy and engaging. Be your best... enjoy your date. Everyone has something to bring to the table - no matter who they are. You can find good in everyone. Find that good in your date... and if you want to see him or her again... you will.
10. This dating game is more in your hands then you know (especially when you meet your date through a nice club like Precision Dating). If you want to see your date again, and you have followed rules 1 through 9 then you should be in a good position to move to the next level. At least one full day after the date, do call or indicate in some way that you enjoyed the date and would love to do it again. The 24-hour call can be made by the male or female. Sometimes men need the green light. If you are the woman, and you make this call 24 hours after date #1 to tell him you'd like to do it again, and you don't hear back... then you should move on. However, that first 24-hour call is fair game and sometimes polite for the woman to do so. I've seen success stories both ways.
2. Be on time and don't reschedule - it sends a bad message. You are building a possible relationship (if that is what you are seeking). So, you should start with good scores from the get go. Unreliability has never been a hit in relationships. I'm sure we all have some stories about that. Unreliability from the get go can often lead to big issues later on.
3. Avoid ALL talk about exes - including ex boyfriends, ex husbands, ex girlfriends, etc... If you are talking badly about someone you chose to love at one point in your life, really, you are talking bad about yourself and will eventually talk bad about the person you are on a date with. This is a "Lose-Lose" situation any way you slice it, so don't even go there. You would think we've all got this rule down by now, but I hear again and again - that people still do not get it. Never break this rule!! If your date asks you about your ex, politely respond with, "I would rather talk about you."
4. Don't complain (about anything). Again, we know this, but people still fail to comply. This is another no-brainer... it's your first impression and first time with this date, so don't complain about the restaurant, the service, or the food. Make light of it. If you really are getting bad service - make the most of it and say, "Well, we are still having fun despite the service here." Life is what you make it...so if you get a lemon, make some lemonade. People that do this well are impressive to others. This is an admirable trait and an easy one to develop.
5. If you like your date, show your interest. We don't read minds so signals of interest and approval are meaningful. We all want to be loved and adored. So if you find yourself admiring your date for his shoes, his confident demeanor, his sense of humor...let him know!! This will tell him you are confident enough to say and tell the truth and may very well get you to that second date - if that is what you want. (Be careful what you wish for... because if you follow this advice you will end up on a second date for sure!)
6. Honor the 50/50 rule: and NO, I'm not talking about the tab! Sorry guys, but I firmly believe that a first date (at the very least) is the guy's responsibility. I am talking about the conversation. Try to make sure that you are talking roughly half of the time and so is your date. A big complaint that I get is that "He/She monopolized the conversation... I couldn't get a word in." Hence, the reason for this rule. Keep it in mind.
7. Don't tell your life story on a first date - EVER. Save it for the second, third, fourth, fifth dates... there is something sexy in a mystery. It is fun to explore and get to know someone over time. That is what builds a relationship. Always leave him (or her) wanting more... of YOU!
8. Don't go into any medical problems you may have on a first date - unless you have a med alert situation - then I suppose your date may need to know. Some daters, out of nervousness, may go overboard giving too much information (T.M.I.)... don't be guilty of this. It's a big turn off. This is also a no-brainer, but you would be surprised how many people make this mistake.
9. Smile, be happy and engaging. Be your best... enjoy your date. Everyone has something to bring to the table - no matter who they are. You can find good in everyone. Find that good in your date... and if you want to see him or her again... you will.
10. This dating game is more in your hands then you know (especially when you meet your date through a nice club like Precision Dating). If you want to see your date again, and you have followed rules 1 through 9 then you should be in a good position to move to the next level. At least one full day after the date, do call or indicate in some way that you enjoyed the date and would love to do it again. The 24-hour call can be made by the male or female. Sometimes men need the green light. If you are the woman, and you make this call 24 hours after date #1 to tell him you'd like to do it again, and you don't hear back... then you should move on. However, that first 24-hour call is fair game and sometimes polite for the woman to do so. I've seen success stories both ways.